I am reading a book called Intended for Pleasure by Dr. Ed Wheat. I just finished a chapter called The "Perfect" Wife. I thought it was so good and inspiring that I went back and typed up some of the important points. I printed it out and put it on my nightstand. It is now a part of my morning Bible study and serves as a good reminder. Thought I would share.
The “Perfect Wife” (Having all the qualities necessary to
assure my husband that I’m the perfect wife for him!)
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Ourselves your servants for Jesus’ sake 2 Cor
4:5
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Attitude of thinking about him instead of being
preoccupied with myself.
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Looking for ways all the time to help him and
please him. (good and not evil all the
days of her life – Pro 31)
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My husband is king of my household and king of
my marriage.
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Next to the Lord, he is the one I want to please
the most.
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It is my joy and privilege to treat my husband
as my Lord. He is my top priority right
after Christ.
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Unfading loveliness of a calm and gentle spirit,
a thing very precious in the eyes of God.
1 Pet 3:4
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1 Cor
13: Patient and kind? Never envious or jealous? Not possessive? Not conceited? Never rude?
Never indiscreet? Not insistent
on its own right? Not self-seeking? Never touchy, fretful, or resentful? Pays no attention to a wrong suffered? Count up past wrongs? Not rejoicing in wrongdoing, but in the
truth? Believe the best of him? Never fail?
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Feel beautiful!
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Accept my husband the way he is! Don’t cut him down in word or thought.
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Compliment him!
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The power of God within me can enable me to
change.
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Turn my attitude over to the Lord and then be,
say, and do what I know is right.
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As I please my husband, I am obeying and
pleasing the Lord. Let it be a love
offering to both.
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The Lord will not make me do anything. He will not change me without my
cooperation.
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With God’s strength operating within me, I am
going to be different! Now DO it!
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Feelings always follow correct action.
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Submission to God and my husband is
supernatural, the result of my own choice of action plus God’s power. Psalm 40:8 – I delight to do thy will, O my
God.
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Bathed and pretty nightgowns for bedtime.
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Look pretty.
Keep smiling. Don’t
complain. Receive my husband with open
arms.
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Give extra attention to the beauty and comfort
of our bedroom. Keep the house picked up
before husband comes home so there is an appearance of order even if I have not
had time to clean. Freshen up before
husband comes home. Wear clothes I know
he likes. Serve food he likes. Take an
afternoon nap so I can stay up late with him since he prefers to stay up
late. Learn to like his interests
(baseball, football, etc.). I want to
enjoy his world with him.
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A wise wife will not argue. I will keep him peaceful and satisfied and
happy by gracefully conceding to his wishes or deferring to his opinions. When an issue is an important one, it can be
discussed and decided on its merits.
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Listen more and talk less.
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Adapt myself to my husband.
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To stay beautiful, do not let myself go. Don’t add 10 pounds a year! Physical fitness program with husband.
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Don’t neglect inner beauty. Being miserable on the inside will show
through wrinkles and my countenance. It
will show in my actions by pushing others away.
It will be revealed in my voice, which would be loud and strident or
whining and complaining or ridiculing in tone.
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A woman who is loved and knows she is loved, who
loves the Lord and loves her husband, will be lovely.
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I will have attitudes that will rise up within
me that are not right. Back up and start
again. Turn it over to the Lord. I don’t have to act this way as a
Christian. I don’t have to let my old
nature be in control. I need not choose to be childish and peeved about some
insignificant thing that my ego felt as a slight.
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I am free to be obedient to God and pleasing to
my husband. I do not have to behave in
any other way.
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Husband must come first and children after
that.
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Children will observe actions and absorb
attitudes.
The more you love and submit to your husband, the more he will love you, just as Christ loved the church.